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Success and Happiness are Subjective Terms






After diving in the self-development world for more than two years, I have changed my life radically. It was basically a brainwashing process where I format all my bad thoughts and negativity. I give up playing video games and wasting time and I started working very hard to change myself. I gradually started sleeping around 4 hours every day for more than three months because I refused to slow down my progress in my goals. I eventually solved all my big problems such poor academic performance, fear of people judgement and low self-esteem. I don’t make excuses as much as before and know what does it take to master any skill.

This experience made me realize that anyone can change and be a happy and successful person if he/she embedded certain habits into his/her life. If you desperately want to gain certain skill or achieve a goal it is important to estimate the needed time and effort for that particular skill or goal. I gradually started judging people who waste their time and make excuses. It was very frustrating to see some of my classmates who complain about the difficulty of the course while they don’t put sufficient effort to keep up with the class. I was on fire. During my fourth year in college, I used to spend an average of 8 hours every day (except Friday) studying. I didn’t meet my friends for more than three months. 

In the self-development world, we constantly hear influencers encouraging people who have low income to improve their lives and get a better job. This point caught my attention. People who have low income are not necessarily are not fulfilled and unhappy. As I have pointed out before, it is important to estimate the time and effort needed to gain a particular goal. Some of the people who have low income have realized the time and effort needed to get better job and decided that it is not worth it. One of the main reason why they decided not improve their lives is because they are not interested in making any changes in their lives. They want to have the same kind of daily life every day. The second main reason is because they realize the responsibilities entailed in higher position and for them it won’t make them happier. 

In conclusion, success and happiness is subjective which mean we can’t decide what will make people happy or unhappy. We should not push our ideas of success and happiness into people based on habits and technique that worked only for us. We need to have wider look into this term and what does it mean for each individual before we give advice. 

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