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How Being Pessimistic Can Make You a Limited Person






            For some reasons, some people enjoy being pessimistic all the time. They are very professional at producing the worst-case scenario for any situation at any time. It might be a mystery for many people to understand how these people are very good at being pessimistic. They are able to produce the worst possibility in any situation right in the scene. In order to be a professional pessimistic, it is extremely crucial to fully understand that mindset of a professional pessimistic. 

            Being a pessimistic is a habit. The more you practice the better you get. Unlike good habits, bad habits are built unintentionally. It starts with a bad event in your life which makes you feel pain, which makes you pay a strong attention to the cause of the pain so you can prevent it from happening again. For example, if you got bitten by a dog, you will start to pay a strong attention for any dog you see in the future to avoid this from happening. Another example, if you try to change the lights in the house ceiling and you got dropped from the ladder and broke an arm, you will stop changing lights in the future to prevent the event from occurring again. Whenever we encounter an even which cause pain, we usually pay a strong attention to the cause to prevent it from happening again. 

            This is the first step to be a limited person. After encountering a lot of bad events, you will accumulate a lot of bad memories which will makes you limited unconsciously. You will start to say I am not good enough for this or that. Another example is people who have social anxiety because they got embarrassed in the past in front of many people. Others are afraid from asking for any favour because they are afraid from rejection. Others are afraid from driving a car because of an accident in the past. 

            While sometimes people make a wise decision by taking extreme cautions, most of the time it is only going to makes them limited. After practicing this habit for very long time, you will start to make decisions which will makes you limited. For example, when you decide to go for 2 miles run and you get tired after the first mile, you tell yourself it is enough and it is dangerous to continue. This use the same kind of mindset for most of your decision in your life. You start telling yourself that I am not like other people, it is dangerous to do this and that. Gradually you mistake what is dangerous and what is not and just to make sure you will be safe you start to call a lot of decisions as dangerous.

            Unfortunately, this is very common problem for many people around the globe. It is a big problem because people don’t realize how it influence their lives and shape it. It controls most of your decisions and your decisions shape your life. Breaking this kind of mindset completely take very long time. However, it is start with small steps which break the believe that we are limited. It starts by doing something small which we used to strongly believed that we are not capable of doing. By continuing breaking this believe in a daily basis, you will start to expand your believe of your capability and be more wise at making decisions. 

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