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You are not Strong, You are Senseless

Your daughter has just got divorced. You tell her that it is ok and she should not worry about it very much. You tell her to stop thinking about the divorce and start living her life. You have solved the problem.


You have a fight with a close friend. Your family tell you to just ignore him and never talk with him again. You are better without him. The problem has been solved.


You slipped from the stairs and broke your ankle. Your family hear about the incident and when they realize that it is your ankle, they do not pay much attention. It is just an ankle.


Your friend is depressed. You tell him don’t be depressed. You have solved the problem.


It is very dangerous to receive these kinds of reactions constantly. This will make you cold hearted in the future without even realizing it because you think that it is normal. You start thinking that these kind of reaction is normal among most people. You might never realize that it is not normal. You will start to consider yourself a strong person and the rest of people are soft. The truth is that you are not strong. You are just senseless. If bad event happened to your family and you didn’t have any reaction, that’s mean that you did not feel anything to react. It does not mean you are strong because you didn’t cry or felt bad. People can’t control their emotion but they can control their reactions. Strong people do feel bad when bad event occur but they can control their reactions. 

It is important to admit the problem to the other person before you console the person. For example, you can say "I understand why you are sad but you need to learn from this situation and start thinking about the future". Do not say ''I have been through worst that this situation". People are with different strengths and abilities and personalities. Don't compare yourself with other. 

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